Because the injury has occurred so close to the day that you want everything to be so perfect it is of course upsetting, however I have yet to have students who postpone the entire wedding because of an injury, they just believe the wedding dance has to be cancelled.
The thing is that with the type of injuries I am talking about, these couples are still going to walk down the aisle and still be mobile to some degree on their wedding day even if not 100%.
So why not adjust the dance to suit the circumstances?
We have taught a dance to couples where one is disabled and in a wheelchair, students with deformed limbs, one arm, a leg in plaster, you name it, the dance and the choreography is adjusted to their ability however limited it is.
Rather than cancel the bridal dance because of an injury, why not adjust the dance to the injury?
Especially where it is a temporary injury such as a twisted ankle. One knows it will heal or mostly heal in time for the wedding. One is still working, still walking and getting around even if limping. The dance lessons will aggravate the injury if one persists in dancing as though there were no injury, but if the dance lessons accommodate the injury you have a bridal dance for your wedding whether you are recovered or not.
Only last month I had an upset bride on the phone who wanted to cancel the dance because the groom had injured his knee jogging the previous day. Their wedding was the following week. After establishing that the groom was walking, albeit limping badly, and that the wedding was going ahead anyway, I encouraged them to still come for the lessons ensuring them that we could adjust the dance accordingly.
So they did come for the lessons and we created a dance where he did very little walking movement and favoured his uninjured leg. The bride worked around him and we got some nice twirls happening for her that disguised his injury and they pulled of a dance that was still way ahead of what they could do without lessons.
Earlier this year I had an older couple for dance lessons and the groom was recovering from foot surgery. They were having lessons in the hope that he would be fully recovered by the wedding day. To be sure the dance would happen regardless of his recovery rate, I choreographed a few very simple steps he could do even whilst still very much incapacitated and then choreographed the rest of the dance with chairs, he seated for the main and her seated on and off and dancing around him for part of the song. It was fun, realistic and achieved a dance for them based on capability. Maybe not what they dreamed, but certainly better than nothing. As it turned out, he was still very tentative on his feet by the wedding day and as such their ‘dance’ was a huge success.
That of course, is an extreme case, but perhaps a good example of still being able to ‘dance’ despite a serious drawback.
Of course, a broken bone, twisted joint or limb, or other injury will prevent you from dancing full on, but it is really only a problem if you try to dance to some set standard or idea. If you cater for the injury and adjust the dance and choreography to the injury, to what it is possible to do without pain or aggravation, then the dance would not cause any harm at all. If you can walk with the injury, even hobble around, then there is a way to create a dance for you. And as above, even if one of you is in a wheelchair, or on crutches, there is still a dance that can be created for you.
So if you really want to dance at your wedding, don’t put it off because of an injury – where there’s a will, there’s a way!